Friends....Trouble.

[Jn4Christ]

Have you ever felt like you were the oldest out of all your friends? Or that your friends are a little too immature? Now that I've given you those questions, I'll tell you the story.

So lately my friends have been just crushing on boys and in some cases girls, but I'm not. Plus they all get to act like normal kids once in a while. I do too...But it's more of a rare thing with me. I have so many different responsibilities that I just get bogged down with them. I can be a little to serious sometime, and I try to be more light hearted, but with all that's happened in my life (parents divorce, getting ownership of a horse, and being homeschooled...) that it's sooo hard. I just feel like I'm growing apart from my friends. I don't want to, but I'm not sure how to stop it.

Some of my friends can't even hang out with me unless it's at church, or at one of our other mutual friends house, and it's all because their parents have a problem with one or both of my parents. I want to hang out with them, but unless their parents can get over the fact that my parents are divorced, I don't see how that'll happen.

Okay, I feel like I've ranted enough... If you have any advice, or thoughts please comment back!

Thanks!

Your sister in Christ!
Jn4 aka Jaime

[BBYN]

Jn, wow, I hear ya sister.. It's soo hard being a mature responsible Christian young lady.. while your other friends don't seem to have a large load in thier life. Growing up with a family of 7, I know what is like to have huge responsibilites and some say im more mature for my age and I need to be a kid. Live your life for Christ and don't worry about boys. God will bring you the right guy in His timing. The parent stuff is something you shouldn't have to worry, it's too big of a burden for you to carry. So, give it up to God and ask for His will to be done. Thing's will be okay. God will provide friends and answers to you, just don't worry and stress cause Gods always gonna provide. It may not bein your timing, but his. ;)

GOd bless and ty for sharing!

-blessed
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[Jn4Christ]

Hey...Thanks for the advice...

I'm not really stressing about guys. More about how they make my friends act. I don't have crushes on guys or care about dating at this time in my life. I care more about having friends and other people in my life that will help me in my walk with the Lord.

It's just so hard to do that when your friends care more about the boys then the Lord. I want to do what He's asking me to do, but I don't know what that is...Yet.

I've had to do so much growing up these last few years, that I don't feel like I'm at the same maturity level as my friends, for just being 14, I feel like I'm more mature. I might not be, but I just feel like it because of what I choose to do, and what they choose to do...

Any ways, thanks for the help!

Your sister in Christ!
Jaime Aka Jn4

[lil_ridin_hood]

I know what you mean. It usually ends up woth u all alone for a while. Then sometimes they come back, only to leave you again. R u like me and have a few good friends and not a lot of bad ones? I'm just saying, it sounds like that and oh how I want to meet you. Go move to your school. It feels like there is no such true Christian friends to meet ur needs, I have no doubt from you though, that you would meet theirs. All I can say is pray. I have figured out too though, look for new or more. And look out for boys too. In the last month, God has given me a few awesome Christian boys in my life and they are liike my brothers. Yeah, I have a crush on them but I get over it. I am not the type of person to date. Oh I hate that. But I know how you feel. Advice, pray and ask God for some good friends. If you perfer girls then ask for girls. Note, to get what you want, if you are not a fan of praying like me, pray when you think of it and make it simple...God please give me some good Christian friends to meet my needs... It won't come so soon, but be patient and u will be rewarded. I'm praying for you girl friend! Hang in there:-)

[Jn4Christ]

It's better to be alone, than to have friends that step on you in stead of helping you! I have a few, and I do mean just a few good christian friends. I'm homeschooled so school isn't that big of a deal with me!! Thanks for the advice too. I'll try to pray more often. I know I don't pray as much as I should! Thanks again!

Your sister in Christ!
Jn4 aka Jaime

[Blessed]

I' ve never really had close friends. None that have shared my faith and definitely none I could trust. The only people in my class (public school) who are Christian are boys, and thats just akward. Most of my friends are my Christian teachers (two anyhow) and I'm perfectly fine with that. If you need a friend I'm a fourteen year old, nineth grade girl and open to any pro-God conversation. Bless You Lots,
Blessed

[Jn4Christ]

I used to have a few close friends, but then it changed once my parents split-up. Now that they're divorced, I don't really have close friends. Except one...Maybe two. I don't really care if my friends are boys or girls, although if they are boys it does get difficult to tell them everything that's going on with me...

I'd love to have you as a friend.. TTYL

JN4

[soccerprincess]

i grew up with three really close friends from the time i was like 2...only one of them is left and he's like my big brother and is 3.5 years older than me...people grow apart...friendships are important...if your friends are like anywhere over the age of 14 then it shouldnt really be up to the parents about that stuff...and their parents shouldnt be judging YOU for your parents mistakes...if your friends really want to hang on to you, tell them how you feel and if they really love you then they will like tell off their parents for judging you...my friends and i grew apart because of drama, other friends, and parents' mistakes...i lost my best friend in the world when i was 14 because my mom and aunt got in this huge church politics fight with her parents...they left our church and we had to stay and ive only seen her once in the last 3 years because of it....

you cant control all of your life or what your friends and their parents think...just trust god....thats what i eventually had to do when i thought i had lost everyone...he'll send you a friend who will be with u through the thick and thin...god sent me two new friends, plus my fake big brother in the last two years...and those are some of the most important relationships in my life....

trust god overall and everything will work out :)

[brebre12323]

U sound like me... My parents are divorced 2 and i have a horse and take care of thirty more. Everyone around wer i live swears my dad had an affair and he swears he didnt so im not sure. Money is hard for us and some of my friends are slipping away 2. The best thing i can tell u 2 do is get good Christian friends, without my youth group i'd probably be going to hell. I'd be happy to be your friend! I can relate. Always see the bright side of things altough life can be hard but for every low theres a high and God will help :-) U can always talk to me.

Bre
Ps.email me if u need 2