My husband is addicted to internet porn and chat rooms

[torontolady1964]

I ask for your prayers for my husband and my family. My husband is a man of strong faith in God but he has not found the real strength to take on the one issue that is destroying our family and our marriage -- his addiction to internet porn and adult chat rooms. He knows that I consider this akin to infidelity and I have told him how much it hurts me. He says he wants to stop but I don't think his true desire to stop is stronger than the enjoyment he seems to derive from it. I don't want a divorce but yet I can't continue to ignore this either. At first it destroyed by own self confidence and I took it very personally. Now its moved to the next stage in that is effecting how I feel about him. I am losing respect for him and building a protective wall around me. The distance between us is growing yet he doesn't stop. I honestly believe that he won't stop without God's intervention and I ask for your prayers to make this happen. I am too embarrassed about it to discuss it with anyone so I am turning to the anonymity of this system to beg for your prayers. Thank you in advance to all who generously give of their time and intentions.

[angel3y35]

I will pray for you and your family. I will pray that your husband realizes what he is doing and that God will give him the strength and the desire to fight this addiction. That he will really and truely understand how is actions are making you feel. God bless.

[melbinell]

You and your husband have been prayed for. With God's help, anything is possible. God bless you both.

[Roxy]

I ask for your prayers for my husband and my family. My husband is a man of strong faith in God but he has not found the real strength to take on the one issue that is destroying our family and our marriage -- his addiction to internet porn and adult chat rooms. He knows that I consider this akin to infidelity and I have told him how much it hurts me. He says he wants to stop but I don't think his true desire to stop is stronger than the enjoyment he seems to derive from it. I don't want a divorce but yet I can't continue to ignore this either. At first it destroyed by own self confidence and I took it very personally. Now its moved to the next stage in that is effecting how I feel about him. I am losing respect for him and building a protective wall around me. The distance between us is growing yet he doesn't stop. I honestly believe that he won't stop without God's intervention and I ask for your prayers to make this happen. I am too embarrassed about it to discuss it with anyone so I am turning to the anonymity of this system to beg for your prayers. Thank you in advance to all who generously give of their time and intentions.
This is an addiction like any other alcohol, drugs, anything. Logic even tells him that it is destroying his life and relationships but it overrides logic and pull him back. Addictions are one of Satan's ways of keep people from God. Possibly look for support groups in your area for porn addiction. If there aren't any try AA meetings. Getting over one addiction is very similar to another. He doesn't have to say he is addicted to porn. I am sure if he describes what he feels when he is doing it, it will be a similar description to what an alcoholic feels when they drink or a drug addict when they do drugs.

For you, try very hard to pray to God that you are powerless and you need his help. Pray for him to show you his will. Do everything in your power to really hand it over to God. Not a simple thing. Because it means you must treat it as if the problem is gone. You must not worry anymore, or not argue to your husband about it. You must pray every time you start to think about it for God to take it. When you have anxiety and worry about it, or feel the need to try to fix it, hold back, pray and tell yourself "Wait 10 minutes before I say or do something". Then after 10 minutes, say it all over again. I is way easier to concentrate on 10 minutes than hours or days. Keep strong and pray every time you think about it, really every time. You'll know when you have really handed it to God, you will feel calmer about it. But the anxiety will keep coming back and that is when you just repeat everything all over. Sometimes you will pray a 100 times in a day but it will help you keep it with God.

I feel for you, I have dealt with trying to give something to God and it is by far the most difficult thing I have ever done. Living for Christ is much harder than for yourself. I will pray for your strength and patience with God. I pray for your whole family to feel Gods hand remove your worry so you all can feel that he is taking care and have the confidence and faith that he will show you HIS WILL. Bless you and I will keep you in my prayers.

[MarkinLA]

Roxy,
Your words are wise and are very helpful to me too. I have been praying everytime I think about my problems. You are so right!

TorontoLady,
You will certainly be in my prayers, may God bless you!