Need Help

[brunettegal06]

I am nearly 18 and a Senior in high school. I have a boyfriend and we have been going out for 9 months now. I can truly say that I love him. From the very beginning we have stayed strong when I had problems with my ex boyfriend (who would have thought the aftermath of a 2 month relationship would last 4 months). I have been raised as a Lutheran and I will honestly say that I have negleted church and havent been going as often as I should. I am trying to make a valiant effort to go more often and attend church as well as a new high school bible study. I went to a parochial school all my life until my sophomore year where I was introduced to public school. Things have gone well but I have realized that I have begun to drift and get so caught up in my own life and friends and I do not feel as close to God as I used to be. My other concern is that my boyfriend that I love is not a Christian, he doesnt really associate himself with any religion. I cant stand the thought that if the end were to come that I would be in heaven and he wouldn't. Not seeing him for a few days makes me sad, the thought of something worse... just something I do not want to allow happen. I would love some advice on what I should do to help remedy some of these problems.

Another thought: Sometimes I feel my mother doesnt think my relationship will last because its my 4th boyfriend and my first serious/long relationship. I wonder sometimes if it is because both my parents first marriages failed, perhaps I am overreacting to the way she acts. Why couldn't have I been lucky just to find someone who I am compatible with at such an early age. It's not like I am thinking about marriage, I have no intentions of doing so until I finish college.

[Nancy]

Brunette,

It is wonderful that you are a Christian, and I think it is obvious that God is trying to call you back to him.

I am worried about you dating a non-Christian, it can cause so many heart aches, way more than just him not being in heaven with you. There will only be joy in heaven, there is no sin there, no sadness. The worst part about feeling you are in love with him is that this controls your thoughts and common sense. You will be tempted to marry him, why did you start going out with him if you knew he wasn't a Christian. You know, once you are married alot of things change. What will he say when you are trying to tell your children about Jesus and that he died for them, when you want to take them to church, will 'dad' always be at home, what about teaching them morals and values, will dad be drinking, looking at porn, 'partying', and how will you be able to teach them your spiritual values if your partner is always contradicting him.

Believe me, couples who are both believers have a hard enough time, it iwll be very hard with one a believer and one not.

Please seek what God is calling you to, work on your relationship with God first, this will bring the most peace and joy. He will give you strength to do what is right.

[LovingChrist123]

hey- have you tried talking to your boyfriend about Christ? You should take him to Church with you and to Bible study. If you guys care about eachother which it seems like you do, you should sit down and have a serious conversation about these things. Now as far as you go, I did the same thing in high school. I let the social scence, friends, fun, all take me away from what is really important which is Christ. Don't loose what you belive. I am 20 yrs. old and in college now and have just re-recieved Christ into my heart. I fell off for a couple of years and now I am getting baptized. Just advice from someone who's been there, you can still have fun with youth group at your church, mission trips, etc. and for your friends who aren't believers, speak to them about it. that way when we get to Heaven you can look and recognize those faces and know that you told them about Christ and led them to Him. Something that won't just last for the time we are on earth, but a gift to them that will last eternally. Hope this helps, and another thing you should read A Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. It's an eye opener!