Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

[Adna]

Hi everyone,

My husband and I have been married for about two years and we've really been struggling with our sexual intimacy for a while. A major part of it is due to our insecurities, which seem to create a cyclical problem. His insecurities feed into my insecurities and it just keeps going around and around. We can't seem to revive our passion for each other. We talk openly and have wonderful communication but for all our efforts, we seem to come up empty in terms of a solution. Does anyone have any advice as to how we can build a healthy and vibrant sex life? I'm desperate.

[StevenPriscilla]

First off i think those insecurities have to go!! Just like any part of our relationship i blelieve that God can even revive that part of it. If we are faithfull to him and cry out with an open heart to recieve his blessing, there is nothing he won't do for us.

Try to think back to what made it so exciting and special to begin with. Sometimes we can remember a place or a touch that made us feel special to the other partner. You said you have good communication, talk about it. Likes and disslikes. As a married couple the possibilities are endless. Give something new a try. Go somewhere. Jesus can revive it and will as long as you trust in him. God Bless You Adna!!!!-Steven:)

[Adna]

Thank-you for your kind advice Steven. T

[HeatherLovesJoel]

Hi Adna, I'm Heather. I have been married for almost 2 years. I hope I'm can give you the advise you need. I don't know the spacifics on your intamacy problems.
I always long for more intamacy with my husband. The bible says the marriage bed is undefiled. So I believe you need to just put both of your insicurities aside go for it. don't be afriad to explore and enjoy each other fully. You need to believe you are beutiful inside and out. When you are going to be intamate with your husband, make shure all things have been delt with and forgiven. Just like Steaven said try somthing new. Be a risk taker. Try reading a book to help you both out on this. I want you to be happy and fullfilled. Of course you should always pray about this. Give it to God and he will bless you for shure.
I hope I could help.

Love Heather

[crossway7]

My wife and I struggled for the first 13 years of our marriage. I discovered I was not helping her insecurities. I unknowingly shamed her opinion or simply did not give her freedom to express herself. In doing so she developled insecurities of being judged. When you feel this way you will not open up. God had to restore freedom into our marriage. I am open to what she is feeling rather than shutting them down and closing her off. Make sure you value each others opinion on anything. Make sure you are being heard and likewise your husband. When one closes down intimacy will suffer. Hi everyone,

My husband and I have been married for about two years and we've really been struggling with our sexual intimacy for a while. A major part of it is due to our insecurities, which seem to create a cyclical problem. His insecurities feed into my insecurities and it just keeps going around and around. We can't seem to revive our passion for each other. We talk openly and have wonderful communication but for all our efforts, we seem to come up empty in terms of a solution. Does anyone have any advice as to how we can build a healthy and vibrant sex life? I'm desperate.

[Adna]

Thankyou everyone for your kind words and advice. Sometimes it's nice to receive strength and support from those who can be objective and yet sincere at the same time. I greatly appreciate it.

[4given]

Thank you very much for not trusting in your own understanding.Actually the Bible says true love waits.No matter the circustances wait.You will eat the fruits of waiting upon the lord.
4given.