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Rheged
10-07-2006, 12:33 PM
Here's the problem, your prayers are needed:

About a year back, I met a fresher girl at one my university Christian Union meetings, I was in my third year at the time. This may sound daft but I fell in love with her within a couple of days. She just struck a chord with me, we got on a like a house on fire. We have so much in common, my life feels dull to the point of being painful without her nearby. In my eyes she is beautiful in every way.

I would have considered pursuing a deeper relationship with her, but she has a boyfriend who she's been seeing since April 2005. Because of this I have been doing my best to hide the extent of my feelings toward her, so that the knowledge of my love does not interfere with the relationship she has with this man, whom she obviously loves as much as I love her - to interfere with that relationship would cause her pain, which I cannot do.

Currently, we are still the best of friends, to the point where we even think alike a lot of the time and we also share meals quite frequently. Where one of us is ill or upset, the other spends time looking after the sufferer. You see the depth of our friendship?

Over the past year, rather than dissipating or changing to a more appropriate form of love, as I'd hoped and prayed for, my love for her has only grown more and more, more than I've ever known for any other person. So far I've managed to keep my silence concerning this, and I'm fairly sure she still does not know, indeed I hope this is so.

At the moment I can barely stop myself from telling her how I feel, and I need your prayers to help keep me from spilling the beans, or from going crazy trying to keep my feelings secret.

These are my faults concerning this matter: Envy - toward the man who has her heart, for wanting to be in his shoes; Adultery by thought - for wanting her for myself, when she already has a man; Dishonesty - for saying "No" when she asked me if I loved any particular woman in that way.

I should also tell you that both the she, and her boyfriend are fellow Christians, and that they (to the best of my knowledge) keep their relationship according to the teachings of the Bible.

Please help,

Yours in the service of Christ,

Rheged (David Corkish of Caerdydd)

larry
10-07-2006, 11:29 PM
Dear Rheged, you are man of troubled ambition, unfulfilled desire, and haven't got the guts to take the chance on being refused by a young woman, by letting her know your feelings; welcome to the fear of all men.

Regardless of your fear, and respect of her commitment, you will regret it if you do not let her know your feelings, and allow her to make the choice. Unrequited love can be hard to take, but near as hard as not facing your fears.

Get with it brother, ask in prayer for God's help, and believe the outcome as God's answer. You can always remain friends if she allows it, but your burden will be gone.

May God bless you brother in the precious name of Jesus - larry :)

Rheged
10-09-2006, 02:07 PM
Suppose your right Larry, thanks for the reply n' stuff. I'm just scared of hurting her.

Rheged
10-09-2006, 02:09 PM
Oh, I'm not scared of being refused, just of hurting her.

larry
10-10-2006, 04:45 PM
Wake up and smell the coffee brother, there has never been a woman yet that didn't like being told she is loved, but don't cry if she says she has always loved you like a brother too; just say thank you, walk away and break something - lol

God bless you brother in Jesus' name :)

Rheged
10-11-2006, 01:40 PM
My brother, if she turns around and says she loves me like a brother, then I will be as happy as if she loved in the marital sense! hmm, coffee........