Dont know How to Handle It

[Beautiful Here]

im here for some advice about what im currently goin through now, and hopefully you guys can help me out. im only 15, so im not seriously into 'falling in love'. but i do talk to this one boy, he lives in a different state, and we met on a chat site.

I really like this boy, but it's so hard to communicate with him. Now that school has started, he's always at football practice or playin at a football game. Its so hard to talk to him, he says he wants to continue to talk with me too, but theres just times when he cant. And those times seems forever to me. There could be a time when i would only talk to him 4 times a month. It's obviously noticable that i still like this boy because im continously callin him. I get sooo mad when i cant talk to him, the one thing i dont wanna do is loose him. But i have to do something.

Please dont think im crazy because im in a difficult situation with a 'boy' that i 'like' or mayb even 'love', since im young and all. Its jus somethin i think i should get advice about because this is very important to me.

[AmericanInUk]

im here for some advice about what im currently goin through now, and hopefully you guys can help me out. im only 15, so im not seriously into 'falling in love'. but i do talk to this one boy, he lives in a different state, and we met on a chat site.

I really like this boy, but it's so hard to communicate with him. Now that school has started, he's always at football practice or playin at a football game. Its so hard to talk to him, he says he wants to continue to talk with me too, but theres just times when he cant. And those times seems forever to me. There could be a time when i would only talk to him 4 times a month. It's obviously noticable that i still like this boy because im continously callin him. I get sooo mad when i cant talk to him, the one thing i dont wanna do is loose him. But i have to do something.

Please dont think im crazy because im in a difficult situation with a 'boy' that i 'like' or mayb even 'love', since im young and all. Its jus somethin i think i should get advice about because this is very important to me.

Beutiful, the only advice I can give is to stop becoming desperate over a boy you have never met. You say you don't to loose him, but you have to do something. Gow can you loose someone you never had? You never even seen this boy. How do you know when you call him it really is him and not some boy being manipulated by an older man who intentions are not honourable?
As for doing something, do nothing. Especially, do not give him or address! You do not know him. You do not know his lifestyle. He is a stranger.

I do not think you are crazy because you are young and think you are in love with a boy you have never met. I think you are lonely and reaching out for someone to listen to your concerns, to pay attention to you. Also, you say he makes you angry. It's not him making you angry, it's your reaction to his ignoring you because he has sport activities that take him away from the chat site where you can talk to him. You need to find friends off the net that you can hang around. Not hanging around your computer waiting for his words to appear. Ger involved in after school activites and church activites.

Talk to your mother about what you are going through so when you start behaving oddly because you can't talk to this boy she's not thinking your angry over something she may have done or a family member may have done. Remember, be aware of how your behaviour can effect those around you.

You may want to come to the Teen Chat here at CCF and discuss this with your peers, since you are a member.

May the Grace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with you.

[godslove]

i think you shouldn't be worrying about boys, there will be plenty of time for that. enjoy life with your family, give yourself a chance to grow up. read your Bible and pray. give God a chance to prepare the life He has for you..God bless.

[kellymarie]

Beautiful,I hope that you will listen to these wise words from your fellow Christians here from Godslove and American.You should consider being around your "real life" friends at home,not a computer guy. This person may not be who he says he is.It is fantasy,not real.You are only 15 and I will say this,you do not know what it is like to really love someone.I and everyone else that was your age,felt that they loved someone only to be disappointed.It is infatuation.I know that is hard to hear that.I imagine that if you open up to your mom,she will tell some of the same thing,and offer her motherly wisdom.Love is about honesty,communication,being there in good times and bad,acceptance,and making an effort everyday.It is not about being mad when you do not talk to him, or waiting intently by the computer for him to tell you the words you long to hear.Love is not some sweet,mushy feeling everyday.It is a choice you make everyday,with a person you can actually see.Are you willing to keep this up or wait till you have a real relationship with a man who is there for you in the flesh who cares for your needs and tends to them?You are not ready for that yet,just wait until you get your schooling done and develop a relationship with the Lord.He will show you the right man for you in His time not yours. God will get you ready for that.But,please do not give your address to this person.Be careful and cautious.Take care and may God richly bless your life with His wisdom and love.

[hisredeemed]

15 is an age where you are starting to exlore relationships as you start to mature.

While you are no longer a baby you still haven't experienced life as those further down the line. We know what's out there and what the likelihood is the 'guy' can be nothing but a predator.

You need to discuss this with your parents or whoever is your guardian. To keep something like this a secret spells nothing but trouble. I understand your parents/guradians may have forgotten what 15 feels like, but they still have wisedom to keep you safe.

I wasn't saved at 15 and wound up with a baby because "But I love him!" syndrone ruled my hormones. I also know this can happen to HCristian youth as well. Make sure this is a relationship the is supervised.

[Beautiful Here]

i dont stay on the chat site waiting for him, we talk on the phone, i trust him, i dont think he'z a predator at all :-(
we've been talkin for almost a year, my mama knows i talk to him, but i dont think she knowz i love him.

[beloved01]

Dear Beautiful,
It's so good that you feel comfortable sharing your story with us. Fifteen is a long time ago for me but I remember it well. I remember beeing desperately in love with a boy who had been in my class since I started school at 5 - I'm from the UK. Well by the time I was 15, I was absolutely besotted with him, and I saw him everyday.
He knew how I felt but we never got together and I think I frightened him because although I tried not to, I was pretty intense. When he asked another girl in our class to go out with him I felt betrayed and hurt. Even his mum and dad wanted us to get together but it wasn't to be. I couldn't understand it at the time, but it was the best thing in the long run.
If you are the one making all the contact you have to think about that. This boy is living his life. He's going to football, or the library, or the mall. He's getting his homework done and seeing his friends. That doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. What it does mean is that he is being practical and thinking about his future.
The hardest part of love is letting go. You can't hold people because you love them. Your friend likes you and probably loves you too, but as a friend. Real love is something that grows from being in close contact, not over the internet or phone. You have to see someones eyes, look into their face, see their expression when they speak. Love springs from these things, but it takes time.
Follow your friends example, concentrate on doing well at school, the Lord gave you intelligence to give you a future. Trust the Lord to know whether this boy is right for you. Give the relationship to the Lord, tell him it's ok with you if He doesn't want it continue and then ask His help to do what's right for now.

Father, be with beautiful as she makes the choices that are right for her. Grant her peace and resolve in her spirit Help her to concentrate on her school work, making friends close to home and establishing new relationships. In your time, bring someone special into her life. Until that moment help her to make the most of these years of freedom and innocence. Transform her and renew her mind for Jesus sake - Amen

[melbinell]

Are you in love with him or the idea of him? For true love to exist, you need to have met the person and see who they truly are in their daily life. He can say anything to you on the computer and the phone.

Listen to the advice you have been given, and take it all to heart. Everyone bit of it on here is excellent. I know you can't see it all clearly now and it may not be exactly what you want to hear, but trust me, you will appreciate later down the road.

And I know you may not want to hear it, but you are only 15. You have a LONG ways to go. Enjoy your life, meet boys who live near you, and consider this person a friend. Don't be obsessed, as you will be the only one ending up getting hurt.

I will pray for you to make the right decisions. :)

[beachbumis]

Keep your parents in the loop. They can help you and give guidance.

Michael

[MyDogBrownie]

Tell your mother or teen leader in your church about your feelings so they can help you understand what true love looks like. Love is an action, not a feeling. Read in your bible what love really looks like. I wish at age 15 someone whould have told me. I went on feelings and ended up in a bad relationship. I know this is not what you want to hear, I know because I have teen girls, and I talk to them constantly about what love is. They appreciate the guidance because I tell them the truth. The truth is not always the easiest to swallow but it will always guide you down the right path.

My prayer for you is that you discover what God's word teaches you about true love. If you follow God's word, you will live the wonderful life He has designed for you. His plans are ALWAYS better than ours.