Search for truth or point of view?

[paulapaulani]

I have been literally disappointed by the number of people who have influenced my partner into questioning doctrine/church teachings and more so the effect it has had on our relationship. I have come to a point in my life where I don't care about who believes what anymore. If the quest for truth means that one person who loved me last week now only sees me as a part of a group, what happened to relationship? Should relationship be put on a back-seat in order to see whose 'doctrine is right'? I would be happier if the people who write websites pulling other christians down and 'correcting' their ideas on God would simply preach the gospel to the unsaved. What happened to living in unity and trusting God that if your or my theories are wrong, God will tell us? This disunity in Christ's body is why other religions see us fighting and ask "Where is your God". If we can't come to a point where two people who love each other can't just love Jesus and let Him lead and guide us in HIS truth, what's the point? The only people who have broken our relationship up and made being happy difficult for us has been other christians. Who needs the devil to kill our faith? We do it to each other. My faith has been so hammered by other so-called believers and their 2 cents worth that I'm reluctant to make friends with other denominations. The attack on fellow members of what is supposed to be one Body of Christ is making me so weak that my confidence to have open relationship with other people who don't go to my type of church is waning. I don't want to fight about he said she said anymore. I don't know if I should just let this person go or stick around. There have only been attacks on our relationship from the start. From christians. How is that God? Please help me I don't want to be on the defensive about Jesus against other christians anymore. Should I just break up with him?

[larry]

Dear sister in Christ Paulapaulani, thank you for this post. I believe since I have been a Christian, I have seen this thing, and that come between believers due to different doctrines and it is wrong. Christian love between a couple should always be to build, encourage, and help one another in their walk with God; not fight about different doctrines.

Then we get to whether we married, or date with those not equally yoked. Now the true context is talking about being yoked with unbelievers, but I will tell you now that if you believe in "Once saved, always saved", and the one you marry believes that He must keep himself saved, there is going to be friction. And since the wife is to be submissive to her husband, other than turning from God, if ever you made a correct choice, it should be before marriage.

I'm sorry if I read this wrong, but you did say partner, and I do not know if that means boyfriend, live-in partner, or husband. If you are living with someone other than your husband, God has never made you one flesh, and it will never will get better in that state.

You also mention the devil killing your faith. The only thing that gives faith is taking in more of the word of God, and study to show yourselves approved unto God comes from that same source of the word of God. Even a good marriage does not do anything to build faith, though it might encourage your faith. You should both be studying your bibles together too.

In not caring any longer as to what others believe as concerning different doctrines, I only see strife and division caused by it. I see so many adamant about end times revelation for instance, and forget the more important part of our walk with God to learn of Him, and love one another.

If you are married, learn what you must do to preserve it. If not, start having some serious conversation now.
I don't know if I've addressed this correctly, but may God bless you in you search for truth in the precious name of Jesus - larry

[hisredeemed]

First and foremost should be your relationship with Jesus Christ. Period.

And, YES, doctrine matters all the way to heaven or hell-at least the basic requirements of believing Who Christ is and all He did.

When a person/persons becomes more important than Christ there is a problem.

Are there problems in the church? Yes! Are there the biggest hypocrits in the church? Yes! But if you think using that excuse to explain why you allowed people to 'hammer your faith' is going to fly in the Just Throne Room of God you're dangerously mistaken.

When Christ truly is the Lord over your life you don't allow others/circumstances to shake you or disrupt your life or faith. That's why Paul said, "I die daily" and 'I am determined to know nothing but Christ and Him crucified'.

The American Christian church is described as 1000 miles long and 1 inch deep and I couldn't agree more! But I don't use that as any excuse for any reason in my life. My life is between God and me and if it means dumping the toxic relationships in my life then so be it! I will not go te hell for anyone!

If you daily seek God first, spend time in His presence and hunger and thirst after His righteousness everything else is just immature baby games. You choose.