love dilemma, i know its sappy but i need help

[lost_leader]

if you are reading this i thank you, i need help and prayer. i am a sinner who has made a turning point. ive always considered myself christian, but since the age of 16 ive had intercourse. about 5 or 6 months ago i began to fight that urge and to try and better myself. now that you know that i want to tell you about my problem. God has allowed me to meet the most beautiful girl and beautiful christian, ive ever met. we started dating about 2 months ago, shes never had sex, and i have a lot. i know i dont deserve her. if this would have happenend a year ago i would know that im not good for her, and that i would accept it and know God has better plans for her. but now, (i know im not a great christian, but still fighting to become one.) i know what i can be for her, but she doesnt. she still thinks im just a normal college guy. i would marry her in a heartbeat, and i want to show her that im not the guy she thinks i am. she acts as if shes really conflicted on what to do. i dont know what to say or do.

[MovingInFaith]

Ok, first of all, you don't sound sappy at all!!! The power of love is one that God is made of, and it's supposed to have life altering affects on us! You acknowledge that you partook in not so Christ-like behaviour, confessed it, and renounced it. You're on a great path!!!

Second, as a Christian woman who has dated and seriously considered marrying a man before who also was not a virgin, I can tell you that it DOES take a lot of forgiveness (which sounds weird, I know, but that's pretty much what it is) on HER part. She needs to forgive your past, because otherwise there's a chance she will begrudge you for it. Does that make sense? Even though you did nothing to her, if you DO end up marrying her, you have deprived her of that "gift". And I'm so sorry if that sounds mean, I don't mean for it too, but my point is that she needs to accept that before entering a courtship with you.

In order for her to do that for YOU, you need to forgive yourself. You've repented. You've stopped. You need to pray on this a LOT, and reach a point where you can get into the mindset "I've done wrong, I won't anymore. God forgives me, and if He sees fit to forgive me, and He is my lighthouse for my new behaviour, then I should be able to forgive myself too"

Do you do devotions with her? Daily praying? Go to church together? My BF started doing that with me, and I love it :-) It's a great way to start to become a leader! And since she is sucha devoted Christian, she'll appreciate it! I knew he was the man I wanted to be with for the rest of my life the first time he led our first prayer together! Now I'm getting sappy, haha!

So anyway, bottom line, stop raking yourself over coals. You're worthy of Christ's love, you're worthy of this lovely girl's !!!

[Paveway117]

Lol...lost_leader become a leader...fear God..NOT satan...repent of your past and ask for forgiveness from Him.
Ask for "her" forgiveness (like movingfaith said) and get those Evil spirits of lust out of you...lol you can do it

[gariel]

Dear Lost Reader,

God has placed this girl in your life for a reason, believe it or not and that is to change your life. If she is christian, she will totally understand. she will not judge you. Just tell her you are trying to change and if she could help you make that transition. Let her know of your feelings and that you are willing not to just change for her but also to try and know God better. If you love her, let her know and suggest courtship. In all yo do seek the almighty and pray for clarity. God Bless.

[gariel]

Dear Lost Reader,

God has placed this girl in your life for a reason, believe it or not and that is to change your life. If she is christian, she will totally understand. she will not judge you. Just tell her you are trying to change and if she could help you make that transition. Let her know of your feelings and that you are willing not to just change for her but also to try and know God better. If you love her, let her know and suggest courtship. In all yo do seek the almighty and pray for clarity. God Bless. :-)

[PurpleLady]

Be honest!
Once we are born-again, we are NEW creatures in CHRIST.
Everything old has passed away...
And you are forgiven. It's done...it's over...

[Brother John]

Don't worry about Girls, get right with God first. Once you have done that, everything else will fall in place. But if you put this girl or any other before God, your life will continue to be a mess. My point is, your question should be toward how to build your relationship with God, not how to get a Christian girl.
If you get her now, you may bring her down with you, and that would be selfish on your part. You need to learn to be a man of God, and put away your selfish desires. Only then will a real Christian woman be truly interested.