What is the appropriate way for chrisitians to meet the right spouse?

[berryann]

Hi

I am new to the chat room and I am happy to join u guys and hear your views. My topic of discussion is about dating and relationships. Many young misinterpret the word "love" and what it means. Also, it is very difficult for a young christian person to meet "Mr. right".

I would love for you all to engage me in this conversation.


May God Bless You!!

Regards
Berry

[CheeseKing]

Well, like the song, "trust and obey" the Lord. Pray to the Lord. I agree with you. I would say that most of these young people dating have no idea what love is. Many follow the lusts of their flesh. The Lord will bring "Mr. Right" into your life. I would follow the Lord's commandments and be patient. When the time is right, the Lord will send "Mr. Right" into your life. I wouldn't go searching for "Mr. Right", but some do and become perfectly happy, finding the perfect spouse. I would keep an open mind and pray before making any desicions, as to what to do. Take care.

[berryann]

Thank you very much. I agree with you but at times it just seem like you are waiting forever. At times I am quite cool with my single state but, I guess situations at times play on your emotions.

[jmj81376]

My advice, along with prayer, is to surround yourself with christian people. Spend time with people who you can talk to about the Lord and through friendships you may even discover that 'Mr. Right' was right in front of you all along. Most importantly, follow God. He will lead you in the right direction!

[M. Reborn]

Hi Berry, My recommendation would be to pray diligently about your need. Then, according to Proverbs 3:5-6, "Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths." It works. May God bless you, as he has many who have trusted in him.

[truebeliever]

A bar or nightclub might be a good place to meet a Christian spouse! You'll find a lot of Christians in those places on the weekends.

BTW, I'm being serious.

[Rylee]

My mom's a bartender, and my step-dad's a drunk, so I actually was raised in bars and such. I've overheard many conversations, but none that mentioned the Lord's name unless it was being taken in vain. I've also been hit on in many of these places, but never by someone who I would think is a Christian.

Here in the St. Louis area, people who go to bars and nightclubs do not get up and go to church the next morning... maybe it's different where you live.

[charlesj]

Hi

I am new to the chat room and I am happy to join u guys and hear your views. My topic of discussion is about dating and relationships. Many young misinterpret the word "love" and what it means. Also, it is very difficult for a young christian person to meet "Mr. right".

I would love for you all to engage me in this conversation.


May God Bless You!!

Regards
Berry

Hello Berry:

Remember "love" is a verb and it will require action(s) on the part of both. The first qualification "today" is that the partner be of the opposite sex. (male and female)

I met my wife by accident. We went together for two years before we married. I can remember the first time we met. I drove past her house and she was sitting on the front porch and I asked her “how are you doing?” Crystal replied, “It’s none of your business!”
That’s what started it… it was love (on my part) at first site. I can truthfully say, I got the best deal.
We have been married now for 43 years and I can still say I got the best deal. I would marry her again in a heartbeat if I had to do it all over again. We weren’t Christians when we first got married, but we acted like Christians.
My wife understood “love” better than I did and has made our marriage work. It has been work on our parts… that’s what marriage is. It will require work on both partners.

It will take time to know your partner.

With Christian love,
Charlesj

[Naomi1]

Hi berryann
I would not suggest you go to a bar or night club to find the christian man, you will be spending the rest of your life with. I can tell you about my own experience becoming single almost 3 yrs. ago after my husband passed away . In the line of work I do, I often meet "good" mature men that show interest in me, however in having a relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ, He has continued to let me know in my heart and through his is word that he wants the very best for me, not only a "good" person but someone who like me is a believer and has a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
You may want to look into cafe's that have events for christian singles.
Read the following Bible scriptures:
2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickeddness have in common?
Matthew 7: vers.15-23, Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them. Not everone who says to me, Lord, Lord, will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father, who is in heaven. Many will say to me on that day, Lord, Lord, in your name drive out demons and perform many miracles? Then I will tell them plainly, I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!
May the our Lord Jesus Christ continue to bless you.
Naomi

[Leyla]

Hi

I am new to the chat room and I am happy to join u guys and hear your views. My topic of discussion is about dating and relationships. Many young misinterpret the word "love" and what it means. Also, it is very difficult for a young christian person to meet "Mr. right".

I would love for you all to engage me in this conversation.


May God Bless You!!

Regards
Berry
Make your self ready for marriage. Check your finances, your walk with the Lord, your commitment to church and God's people. If your finances are messed up and you can't be committed to church, your relationship will suffer and may end shortly after it starts any way. Start saving money now!! Do you have your own place to live that is affordable on your income? If you are a guy you should be able to feed and keep a wife and a child on one income. You might not have extra money but if you can't afford a wife don't look for one, really. She may not be able to work after a baby comes, there may be medical complications with her birth, etc. The baby may not stay in day care, like my sister's baby didn't. Remember babies can come nine months after the honeymoon night no matter what you use or don't use to stop them.

Are you loving, patient and kind? Do you think of others first? If not, don't marry anyone until you are all of the above, don't even think of dating until you are all of the above. Get some counseling and pray with a pastor or Christian counselor if you have any trouble with anger, depression, addiction or any other serious problem.

So you have a lot of work to do to get ready, I think.
Leyla